There are many more examples of past friendships and romantic relationships that reached their end quickly, but I want to provide another type of example. This critical difference in personalities eventually resulted in us falling out and forming our own group of friends in which we related to more.
My old best friend, on the other hand, is extremely social and loves going out to parties and meeting new people. For example, I am very introverted and enjoy doing things that do not involve a large group of people or having to socialize with people I have never met, for that matter. Looking back on my past friendships, the common factor that led to their downfall was the fact that there was an absence of similarities. This hypothesis has been supported by numerous studies stating that friendships and romantic relationships have a greater success rate when they share common behaviors, characteristics, and/or attitudes (Dryer & Horowitz, 1997). The similarity-attraction hypothesis states that attraction increases between those with similar characteristics and personality traits (Dryer & Horowitz, 1997). This unfortunate reality did not often cross my mind until after I read about how strongly similarities impact the length and security of relationships, romantic or platonic.
Why? Well, the lack of common interests, thoughts, and attitudes finally caught up.
You begin discovering new ideas, you get to pick their brain, go on adventures you never even thought of, and the list goes on, but at some point, that excitement fades. When you meet someone who is quite different compared to yourself it is pretty exciting.
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